Or change your state through experiences. Little daily things are big. When I was going through my rebirth — changing my state, I found joy in little things like a good workout, motorcycle rides, meaningful conversations, enjoying different foods, and hanging out with my tribe. These are all things I had in front of me. I didn’t have book deals or my own company. I punched a clock. I was in a job I didn’t like (but later realized it was one of the most important chapters of my life and would position me for bigger things.) The process of finding joy in your life is what creates you to connect to yourself. This is the gold. This connection to self is what makes you a super magnet to attract.
If you want something to happen, such as you want a bike, don't just say I want that bike, believe you are going to get that bike. Instead of telling yourself you want the bike, envision yourself riding that bike. It doesn't matter whether or not you know when you're going to receive it, just believe you're going to get it and have no doubts about it. If you have any doubts, quickly change your thought pattern to the positive and focus on receiving or having what you want.
So, now that you are working on creating open channels of energy by removing the limiting beliefs and blocks, you can begin to put your dreams/goals out into the Universe. Pay attention to how you are asking the Universe for these things! A lot of people make the mistake, without realizing, to ask the Universe for things in a “scarce” or “victim” mindset. What do I mean by that?
Freud believed that uncovering the true meaning of his patients' dreams could help them overcome problems and fears in their lives. The manifest content is the literal interpretation of the dream, with no hidden meaning uncovered. He reasoned that people who were experiencing conflict in their lives may bury their true issues within the latent content of dreams as a way to avoid anxiety. According to Freud, this method of deciphering dreams allowed people to uncover issues or memories that are too painful for the person to address when they are conscious. He believed that if he was able to move past the manifest content of a person's dream that held no deeper meaning and discover the true meaning of the latent content, he would be able to understand the conflict that the person is experiencing and work past it with them.
My online re-parenting series takes people through that dissection process step by step. It’s a twenty- to thirty-minute process each day for a little more than a week. People can do it in their own time, and they have incredibly profound experiences when they start unpacking their childhoods. When I hold a re-parenting workshop, I take people through a very simple process of finding a block. They’ll have a trigger in their life and say something like, “I keep attracting these types of friends, but they really don’t have my best interest at heart and they’re jealous when…” And I say, “Okay, let’s take a look at that.” I’ll have them do a journaling exercise, and then I take them under what I call “deep imagining,” which is a hypnosis process I’ve customized. Within moments they can see where they picked up their block in childhood, and they begin to understand everything in their reality is a projection of what they imprinted in childhood.
Arielle: Living as if means stepping outside of your current reality and stepping into the reality you wish to be true. It’s when your daily actions reflect and are congruent with your belief that your soul mate exists and is already yours. The best example of this was revealed to me by a famous actress. Once she became clear that she was ready to share her life with someone, she began living as if that person were already a part of her life. She would play music she imagined he would enjoy; she wore pretty nightgowns to bed instead of her typical T-shirt and sweats. Every morning she would feel that they were waking up and starting their day together, and every night at dinner she would light candles and set a place for him at the table. According to this actress, he eventually arrived. She sent a clear message to the Universe, and the Universe delivered. Now you may not be willing to set a table for two each night when you have dinner, but start to consider what you could do to generate the feeling that you are already sharing your life with your beloved. For example, buy tickets to a concert or play that is several months away, holding the intention that you will attend it with a hot date. Or the next time you are shopping for greeting cards, pick up a couple that would be fitting to give to your beloved on a birthday or to celebrate your anniversary, knowing that sometime soon that day will be here.
Create a list of what you can do now to fulfill your goal. Looking on search engines and authoritative sites is an excellent way to help you come up with ideas for your list. Read forums and articles since there is a good chance there are others that have the same goals and more than likely has taken the time to write about their experience. Once you have your list, get to work and keep pushing until your goal is realized.